A woman who had $40,000 in student loan debt after growing up in a “very poor” household is furious when she discovered her mother ruined an inheritance left by her grandparents to fund their grandchildren’s education.
The 27-year-old, from the US, shared the details of her story reddit revealing how she overcame her ‘very poor’ background and low grades in high school to earn a science degree that left her struggling with tens of thousands of dollars in debt – only to discover she’s supposed to have part of the $150,000 inheritance .
Her mother’s betrayal came to light during a conversation with old family friends, who were the executors of her grandparents’ will – and to add insult to injury, the woman says they are now mad at her for confronting her mother. with the inheritance and cutting off contact with her.
But while the woman, who did not reveal her name, faced backlash from her family friends, online commentators were quick to express sympathy for her plight, with many criticizing her “ruthless” mother and urging her to seek legal advice in to win.
The 27-year-old recently discovered that her grandparents had left her a substantial inheritance – but that her mother had secretly inflated all the money (stock image)
The poster shared details of her story on Reddit – revealing that her mother had spent all her and her siblings’ inheritance money
According to the post, the writer’s mother, now 53, who has five children, had a very difficult life and “made a lot of bad decisions.”
“We grow up very poor (VERY poor) with our mother always out or taking strangers to party, leaving me to raise the youngest two,” she recalls.
“That said, I loved my grandparents dearly and they loved us children too, and as much as they struggled with my mother, as far as I know, they were nothing but loving to her.”
She added: ‘My grandparents died when I was in 5th and 7th grade and this crushed me. I couldn’t say anything about it at the time, but then a severe depression set in.
‘From that moment on, school was very difficult for me, as was my life at home. I eventually fell pretty deep into my grief and stopped going to school around my freshman year of high school.”
Despite this struggle, at the age of 17, she decided to leave home and move to a larger city. She graduated high school with a low grade (a GPA of 1.75) but enrolled in a community college supervised by two teachers.
She eventually graduated with a science degree, and although she had accumulated $40,000 in debt, she accepted it as a necessary cost of education.
However, her opinion changed after she reached out to some close friends of her grandparents in an effort to “get a better idea” of what her grandparents had been like when they were alive. She referred to this couple as “the Johnsons.”
Many people felt the Johnsons had played an undesirable role in the drama, saying it was unfair to share the information and not expect the woman to confront her mother about it.
She said: ‘In conversation it emerged that [grandpa] left an inheritance of $150,000 for the grandchildren’s education. But three years later (around 2010) my mother came to the Johnson’s and confessed that she “blew” all the tuition money.
“My relationship with her was already tense, but this really crossed a line for me. I emailed her to tell her I knew what she was doing and told her not to contact me again.
“De Johnson quickly contacted me and told me it was a long time ago and she has improved a lot since then and I shouldn’t have told her they told me. I think I have the right to confront her, but they say I violated their trust.’
Commentators urged the woman to seek legal advice or find out exactly what her grandparents said in their will to see if she has any recourse
Commentators quickly advised the woman to contact a lawyer and find out exactly what the terms of her grandparents’ will were.
Some pointed out that the grandparents should have set up trusts to ensure her mother couldn’t spend the money, urging her to find out the exact terms of the will.
Others criticized the Johnsons for bringing up the information and then became angry when the woman confronted her mother.
One Redditor wrote: “It’s fundamentally unfair to burden yourself with an important piece of your personal history and then not allow yourself to be confronted with the person who hurt you.
“While I’d say you have a right to know, in principle they could have kept this burden to themselves if they wanted it to remain a secret. Once you reveal such secrets to the world, you can no longer control how people deal with them in the future.’
One Redditor got quite heated, writing: “The Johnsons and your ‘mother’ are literally garbage… You’ve had a hard life and I applaud you for persevering and making something of yourself, that’s great.”
The vast majority of commentators were extremely sympathetic to the original poster’s plight – with multiple people accusing the mother of stealing the inheritance
Some accused the mother of theft, with one writing: ‘She tried to hide it and made no effort to make it up to you, she has no regrets. And I bet if she had more money to steal she would still do it.’
Another added: ‘NTA. My husband’s parents did this to him. His grandmother left him 10k in her will when he was a minor. They took it and spent it on their house that they could never keep up with.
“They lie to him all the time and tell him she didn’t, but his aunt told him the truth. It’s sad because they keep lying and had to sell their house and move to an older RV because they were a month away from foreclosure. It breaks my heart to know how they have treated and continue to lie.’
One cynical user said they weren’t even surprised by the story, as money can make people behave badly. They wrote: ‘NTA. An inheritance brings us the worst in families. I find your story hardly shocking and I would be outraged.’
Some commentators felt that the original poster should have looked at the situation from the mother’s point of view, with one writing, ‘But from another perspective – your mother was very poor with five young children. There is hardly a person in the world who would not have made it through that 150k.”
Another, even bolder, wrote: ‘OP didn’t have $150,000 left, but it was for all the grandkids.
‘It’s gone, OP can talk to Mother or hold bitterness. I would recommend therapy.’