240 shocking texts Sydney female psychologist sent teenage boy, 17, she had sex with at free session
A mother of three who has had sex with a vulnerable teen insists she’s not a predator but admitted, “I should never have become a psychologist.”
Jo Wise, 40, has been banned for five years after a court was told she had sex with the 17-year-old at her home while her husband was away.
The hearing learned that she and the boy had also exchanged more than 240 inappropriate, often sexualized, text messages and held consultations in his bedroom.
One text read: ‘I woke up and I smell you. Don’t write back, I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you. PS you should delete all my text messages.’
The tribunal found “a gross violation and exploitation of the power imbalance in their relationship.”
“The practitioner’s behavior was reprehensible, inappropriate and unethical,” it said.
A mother of three therapists accused of having sex with a vulnerable teen insists she’s not a predator but admitted, “I should never have become a psychologist.” (Pictured, a stock photo of a boy receiving psychological counseling)
The findings added: ‘Instead of helping’ [the teenager], her behavior likely had a detrimental effect on its already fragile state.
“It must be condemned in the strongest terms to discredit the profession of psychology.”
On Tuesday, Ms Wise admitted to the Daily Mail Australia that she had often crossed the line in therapist-client relationships.
“I haven’t had the boundaries I needed for my clients,” she confessed to the Daily Mail Australia. ‘I should never have become a psychologist.
“I treated my clients like family and friends. I realized it wasn’t professional like most psychologists would be, I guess.
‘I thought that’s why I was such an effective doctor, but I wasn’t. I had no business being a psychologist. I’m so unwell myself.’
Ms Wise, from the Bilgola plateau in Sydney’s northern beaches, admitted that the border issues had created the ‘grey areas’ that led to the charges against her.
“Absolutely,” she said. ‘Absolute. I wasn’t as professional as I should have been with all my clients.’
Jo Wise, 40, has been banned for five years after a court was told she had sex with a 17-year-old at her Northern Beaches home while her husband was away. (Pictured, an aerial view of Sydney’s Northern Beaches)
Ms Wise did not deny that she texted the boy and admitted, “I don’t think you can even send fake texts, but it’s all been massively taken out of context.”
She insisted there was no physical relationship with the teen.
“Not in the way they suggest,” she cried. “There was no relationship. There was absolutely no relationship.
‘I am married and have three children. What am I going to do?’
The teen’s consultation with Ms Wise began in 2018 after the boy’s mother began to worry about her son following the sudden death of four of his friends.
One had taken his own life, one died of cancer, another in a traffic accident and a fourth died while surfing, leaving him in dark despair and self-harm.
American-born Mrs. Wise ran a youth work and counseling consultancy in Brookvale and began treating the boy at home after a referral from his GP.
The tribunal found that she not only had sex with the teen, but also inappropriately hugged him, inappropriately consulted in his bedroom and regularly texted him. which was ‘both inappropriate and unethical’.
“We must remember that these messages were addressed to an immature, psychologically vulnerable teenager,” the tribunal said.
The tribunal said Ms. Wise regularly texted, seen here, with the teen, which was “both inappropriate and unethical.”
The boy said that Mrs. Wise once pinned him to his own bed, touched him and ‘let me know that her husband was on 24-hour shift the next day and that I was welcome to come over for a free session’.
When he went to her house, he said she undressed them both before having sex and then had oral sex with him.
A few months later, the boy injured himself and was rushed to hospital at the risk of suicide.
The hospital notes, “Been to a psychologist before – things got weird, trust issues with someone ever since.”
The notes added: ‘Bad experience with a previous female psychologist who made advances with him’.
After the sex at her home, the tribunal found that Ms. Wise was trying to continue her relationship and had not laid out a clear treatment plan for him.
She told him, ‘I know you’re a boy and all you think about is sex, but I was hoping for a little bit more’, which the teen told the tribunal ‘made it 10 times worse for me’.
Jo Wise ran her Youth Work and Counseling consultancy from this address in Brookvale (pictured)
Ms. Wise had chosen not to appear in court because of her own mental health issues.
In an email to the tribunal, she insisted, “I am not a predator and have spent my entire career fighting predators and trying to repair the damage they have caused.”
Ms. Wise resigned as a psychologist last November and now works in customer service.
She told the Daily Mail: ‘I gave up my registration because I understood I didn’t have the boundaries I needed for my clients.’
The mother of three children aged 4, 7 and 9 admits her life has been devastated by the case and has vowed never to return to emergency services.
She added: “I have definitely distanced myself from the health professions. I have to take care of my babies.’
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THE DAMING TEXTS FROM PSYCHOLOGIST TO TEEN
The tribunal revealed details of some of the intimate moments and texts, often studded with heart emojis, sent between the psychologist and the teenage boy.
October 3, 2018: ‘You are always welcome in my house,’ Ms Wise texted the teenager
October 7: She texted him saying she was working at a location in Northern Beaches on Mondays and Tuesdays and asked if he could get a lunch break so they could “have lunch together.”
October 11: She sent him a photo of her baby’s head, referring to the child with a “mullet” haircut. The teen had previously exchanged emails with Ms Wise, including a photo of his hair in a mullet.
October 12: Mrs. Wise was at the teen’s home and asked to see his duck collection which he kept in his bedroom. The teen said Mrs. Wise was sitting on his bed, with her leg against his leg. He said she “became more and more sensitive, holding his hand and putting it on her cheek.” He says that when he was stretched out on the bed, he playfully pushed her and she “jumped on top of me and tried to pin my hands.” He described Mrs. Wise as having a knee on either side of his body. The teen said that in his bedroom, Mrs. Wise “let me know that her husband was on 24-hour shift the following day and that I was welcome to go to hers for a free session.” The teen said he was confused by her behavior as she was his psychologist.
October 12: “I miss you already…want to come to mine tomorrow before or after 18th pres,” Mrs. Wise messaged the boy. She said he could get an Uber to her house and gave him her address.
October 13: Ms. Wise texts that she’s worried about how close they’re getting. At 7:51 PM, while he was at a party, she texted the teen, “I wish I could see you tonight.” He replied that he would be there at 9pm. Mrs Wise replied ‘all good to leave at 11am’. The teen went to her house after drinking about six or seven beers at the party before his arrival. He claimed that Mrs. Wise had been drinking and offered him a beer which he declined. He said she undressed him, then herself and they had intercourse before Ms. Wise performed oral sex on him.
October 14: ‘I’m in such pain this morning!! I woke up and smell you on me (smiley emoji) Don’t write back, I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you (heart emoji) PS you should delete all my texts (three emojis) I meant don’t write back explicitly (emoji) We can still text each other normally (heart emoji) How are you feeling today?” Ms. Wise texted the teenager
November 19: Mrs. Wise was present at the teenager’s home. At first he refused to see her, but after his mother told him not to be rude, he spoke to Mrs. Wise in the garden shed near the family home for about 30 minutes.
November 23: Mrs. Wise goes to the teenager’s house and leaves him a birthday present for his 18th birthday.
December 7: Mrs. Wise texted him saying ‘[Teenager’s name] I seriously need help, are you gone? Very f***ed to [redacted]’.
February 6, 2020: The teen was admitted to the emergency department of Northern Beaches Hospital with “suicidal thoughts after inflicting several cigarette burns on his arms in the past week.”